The following is not based on scientific research or accredited study, but rather, it is based on mere observation. Generally, when reading or discussing the basic differences between men and women, the topic tends to lean towards our communication patterns or our innate desire to nurture or protect. I am prone to notice the smaller details, the less significant differences. I will be speaking in generalities, noting little quirks I’ve noticed between my male and female friends, co-workers, and family.
First, men are commonly known to be visual creatures. Knowing this, one would believe men would have a broad variance of favorite colors. Oddly enough, most men select one of three colors as their favorite: blue, green, or red. In that order. To test this theory, I asked several male co-workers to define their favorite color. Predictably, nine times out of ten, the answer received was “blue.” Interestingly, more than half would respond with, “Blue. But I also like green.” Ask your husband, boyfriend, father, brother, friend, or co-worker and you’ll be amazed of how often you receive this common response. On the other hand, women are more likely to spout out a billion different colors, “Lavender, yellow, or aqua.” And even more interesting, when women select blue or green as their favorite color, a more descriptive term proceeds the “blue” or “green.” For example, women like “sky blue,” or “kelly green.” Personally, my favorite colors are red, aqua, and electric blue.
Another difference can be found in how we dream. Often times, men do not recall their dreams. When they do, they relay of dreaming in black and white, in third person. Women are more likely to dream in vivid color, first person. Women are also more apt to recall extensive detail. It is common for me to recall dreams. I am a rare breed as I often have lucid dreams. As a lucid dreamer, I am able to manipulate the outcome of my dreams. I also dream in Technicolor, and 99.9% of the time, I dream “through my own eyes.” In fact, I can only recall one instance of dreaming in third person, a foreign and bizarre concept. Another item to ponder, is the way in which we dream genetic? My mother and I share similar dreaming patterns. I’ve asked my father of his dreams and he responded with, “I don’t dream much, but when I do, they are strange, detailed, vivid.” Me too, on both accounts. I’ve heard most dreams are quite short. I struggle with this concept as mine are often long, detailed, movies inside my head. Then again, I typically enter another world when sleeping. I’ve been told I appear to be dead when I am asleep. My pulse has been checked, my breathing questioned. I slip into coma-like state and it is difficult to rouse me from slumber. I sleep through alarms (yes, plural,) tornado sirens, phone calls, and thunderstorms. Sleep (and dreams) are precious to me.